Stop Folding Yourself: You’re a Queen, Not an Ironing Board.
Terminate apologizing for existing. Learn how to shred the "be a good girl" script, stop shrinking to fit small minds, and finally start taking up the space you were born to own.
Colleen Clark Lay
12/22/20251 min read
Stop Shrinking: You Are Not a "Small" Person 👑✨
I see you.
I see you softening your voice in meetings so you don't seem "difficult." I see you downplaying your wins so your friends don't feel "behind." I see you trying to fold yourself into a shape that fits a life you’ve already outgrown.
Stop it.
As women, we’ve been conditioned to believe that our brilliance is an imposition—that if we shine too bright, we’ll blind the people around us.
Here is the 2025 reality check: Your light is not the problem. Their lack of sunglasses is.
Your Badassery is Self-Defined
It’s about alignment. It’s about refusing to dim your vision to keep others comfortable. Your power isn't a threat; it’s your truth.
If you feel that "pull"—that restless, electric feeling in your gut—that’s the badass woman you are meant to be calling you forward. She is unapologetic. She is clear-visioned. She is powerful.
This Isn’t a Makeover. It’s a Takeover.
Stepping into this next version of yourself isn't about losing who you are. It’s about becoming truer.
It’s time to:
Burn the old scripts: The ones that told you "quiet is better."
Own the room: Not because you have to prove something, but because you belong there.
Write the ending: You are the author, the hero, and the star of this story.
The space you’ve been afraid to occupy is exactly where your self-defined breakthrough lives. I'll see you there