The Open Car Window Theory: Stop Sharing Your Air

Let's talk about boundaries and boss moves.

Colleen Clark Lay

12/6/20251 min read

brown and black short coated dog in gray car window
brown and black short coated dog in gray car window

You know that feeling—wind in your hair, music up, cruising with your dog who is just thrilled to be there? That’s the kind of uncomplicated, pure energy you deserve in every friendship.

The truth is, your dog is the gold standard of loyalty: present, excited, and zero drama. It's time to demand that same ROI from your human friendships.

This is your new friendship mantra:

"Friendship goals: Finding someone I am willing to share the open car window with."

It's not about being exclusive; it’s about being discerning. Your circle dictates your future. Are the people closest to you adding to your journey or just taking up space?

Here’s the rule of the open car window:

  1. Lift or Leave: If they don't celebrate your wins without a hidden agenda, they don't get a seat. Only those who lift you higher get the view.

  2. No Small Talk, No Small Minds: There is no space in your ride for mean girl shit or draining energy drama. Your time is precious. Your peace is non-negotiable.

  3. Ride-or-Die Only: You deserve loyalty as unconditional as your dog's. If they aren't ready to weather the storm or enjoy the sunshine on their face with you, they belong on the side of the road.

Empowerment is choosing who you share your air with. Stop settling for lukewarm relationships. Set your boundaries sky-high, claim that open car window, and save the best seat for the friends who truly matter. Now that’s BADASS!